Thursday, July 30, 2015

Cheat for Chic

Karl Lagerfeld said “Never use the word “cheap”. Today everybody can look chic in inexpensive clothes (the rich buy them too). There is good clothing design on every level today. You can be the chicest thing in the world in a T-shirt and jeans — it’s up to you.”
What poignant words from the premiere designer, of our time, known for creating a world of luxury and opulence for fashion lovers worldwide. Often in my own lifestyle and fashion choices, cost is a very significant contributor to what I buy and how much. I am what some may call an unapologetic bargain shopper. But who doesn’t like to get more for less? So the question is how do you cheat to get a chic look for less? Well, my style philosophy begins and ends with pairing moderate/contemporary price points with budget/mass market price points.

 Contemporary Price points usually retails for under $500 and moderate under $100, they include lines such as BCBG, Bisou Bisou, Zara, XOXO, Isabel Ardee and Rebeccas. On the other hand bargain and mass market price points include retailers like Forever 21, Macys, JC Penny, and Thrift Stores.  Once you find a few brands that you can’t live without, it’s time to broker a merger that would tantalize the savviest of style investors. In order to create a chic inexpensive look, you do have to pay attention to the quality of said garments, making sure the fabric and details won’t unravel as you are sashaying down the street. I also want to be clear that I am not advocating for buying knockoffs however “look-a-likes” are welcome.





Monday, July 20, 2015

For the Love of Fashion

A couple that can find at least two things in common, an activity or a shared passion, which they both enjoy, is going to find a healthy pathway, to a long lasting relationship. One of the things, I enjoy most with my better half, is our love for all things fashion and style. We shop together often and assist one another with styling and editing looks. I know I'm blessed to have found a man, who doesn't grimace or get upset because I'm spending too much time,  trying on endless amounts of clothing in the fitting room. Instead he is often providing me with helpful feedback and I do the same for him. The only problem we may encounter is needing someone to say "no", so that we stay within our specified budget. lol Sharing a passion for fashion,  means not only that we always have something to talk about but if we are having a disagreement or experiencing any type of adversity in our relationship, this common interest always brings us back to our center, a place of understanding. It's one of many things that we can always rely on, to take us away from the reality of  our current existence, whether pleasant or not. Fashion and style for us, is a segway to a place, where its all love. Having this bond, deepens our connection, its almost like we speak our own language, on our own island, that nobody understands or has access too but us. In fact, when you think about how much you are with your significant other on a daily basis its so important to make sure you give some consideration to their style as it impacts your life in more ways than you know. Just imagine all the times you may have cropped them out of a picture, or had an argument over their attire.  If this is a topic that you are not balanced in, think about what you could do or say, so that you are on the same page.  Personal style can be a sensitive subject for some, so during your discussion with your sweetheart, remember to keep it fun and light but be constructive. Hiring a personal stylist could be one solution??  However, if you can't use style, to bond, find something else that you have in common and go from there. Be sure to check out both myself @styled_4u and  @ahki_dc on Instagram and follow our style journey here and on www.grittyrebelgents.blogspot.com. Good Luck!






Monday, July 13, 2015

Look what happened over the weekend!

Do you find that your weekend style differs greatly from your workweek or everyday style? If you answered yes, you may be struggling with what I call, "dissociative style." DS, may come and go but if you want a cure just be more consistent with your style choices. No matter the time, occasion or weather, you have to stay true to your style identity. Remember we've discussed how to find your style identity in an earlier post. Anyway once you have a clear outlook on your own personal style, being consistent in your outfit choices will be easy. Yes, you do want to consider variables when getting dressed like the weather, occasion, and time of day however it should not completely dictate what you wear. For example, today's forecast for rain did not deter my desire to wear a vibrant color, I remained true to my style mantra "sport chic" and put on some chic joggers I nabbed recently from Zara. To complete my look I wore a simple pair of statement heels but because of the weather I have an alternate pair of flats too. So my point in saying all this is no matter what dress to (impress) yourself, and always speak your own fashion language!

Tuesday Joggers JCP, top Zara, sandals Aldo

Wednesday Pants JCP, Flats and Top  Zara
Thursday Flats and Top Zara Skirt Charlotte Russe
Friday Dress Rugged WearHouse
Saturday Skort JCP Top and Heels Zara 
Sunday Skirt Ann Taylor top Forever 21

Monday jogger Trousers  and heels Zara top F21

Saturday, July 4, 2015

Friday, July 3, 2015

QT with my cutie

When you hear the phrase "quality time" it's often associated with the intentional practices involved, in caring for young children. The other most prevalent context, for this term is when talking about the time shared between two people, who love and care for each other, doing something meaningful together. I normally don't but I have to gush about the "QT" I've been enjoying with my better half. Special occasions, social engagements, and even the typical everyday ebb and flow, have been all the more special. Mainly, as a result of us both, making efforts to engage each other on a deeper level. It can be easy to be with someone and forget why you are together or how you ended up in a bad place, where you aren't connecting. Long term monogamy, can have some challenges that will test any relationship, therefor planning quality time together is essential, if you want the relationship not only to last but to thrive. Finding some shared common interest, passion, and effective, modes of communication while allowing,  time to explore those things together, is a great way to start. While in those moments remember to "show and tell." Show your appreciation, love, and  compassion. Tell them what's working, be positive and offer constructive critisism when nevcesary but not at every opportunity. I say this not as a relationship expert but simply as someone who has found and believes in the power of love and all the blessings that come with loving unconditionally. Hence, this post is dedicated, to the love of my life, happy birthday mook, thanks for the "QT" and everything in between, MUAH!!
Shirt H&M, Trousers ASOS, Loafers Zara
Dress Charlotte Russe, Heels, Justfab

Thursday, June 25, 2015

All Mixed Up

As a child, I can remember getting dressed for school and always hearing this constant echo from my parents, about my clothes needing to match. “Do your socks match, does your outfit match, do your barrettes match? “ It was constant, this obsession over matching, and I couldn’t figure out why. As I’ve gotten older, I attribute the questioning and importance of style and subsequently matching, to be cultural, as black Americans are known historically and presently, for placing emphasis on style and trend, you know staying “fresh.” In black culture stylish clothes has social-economic significance, being fresh and stylish, is something we could achieve relatively easy to gain status amongst our peers as opposed to more challenging acquisitions like homeownership, education, and many other achievements, many desired but were not able to easily gain access too. It is no wonder, matching outfits and brand names were so sought after and important, when it came to dressing for school. Design houses such as Stella Jean and Missoni and many others, have made their imprint in the fashion world, doing just the opposite of what I was taught as a child. Mixed matched, medleys, of fabrics and textures, create an untold story that is implausibly cohesive for these fashion houses. They embark on a journey of finding common demonstrators that unfold beyond what the eye literally sees as matching colors, and create a seamless color story, of endless possibilities.  There are of course some rules to follow if you want a polished mixed matched look and they include finding at least 2 or more common colors, patterns, or layers of intrigue, for this to work. Once you find the common core, you can add dimension to your ensemble, using your choice of accessories, style techniques, etc. As you can see, my look was inspired by this concept, how did I do?



Wednesday, June 17, 2015

Work press PLAY



Packing a carry on bag for a business trip can be a somewhat daunting task. You have to have professional attire for  everyday that your are working and probably some additional outfits for more formal dinner meetings as well as leisure time. If you are gone for a few days, lets just say 4 for demonstration purposes, you could potentially need at minimum
 8 to 10 looks. If you're traveling during warmer months you'll have more wiggle room, when it comes to packing your tiny carry on, but if its winter boy things can get real competitive, when deciding what to take or leave at home. So on my recent business trip to Nawlins, the perfect playground and seemingly prime location, for hosting a conference, I strategically selected, dual elements for travel. The items I packed had versatility and could be worn repeatedly, with other items, I brought with me. This tactic significantly decreased the volume of clothing I packed and even left a little room for shopping, and bringing things home with me. I call that a win Beybe! So here is a list of items that could prove to be the answer, to packing with style for your business travels. 

1 pair of dark rinse Jeans
2 high quality t-shirts in solid colors ( at least one should be white)
2 high quality camis
1 Blazer
1 Cardigan
1 pair of dress pants
1 skirt
2 dresses
Undies ( you can never have enough)
1 neutral colored flat/heel
1 comfortable traveling shoe
1 pair dress sandals heels
2 statement necklaces
1 pair of earrings ( pearls are best or something classic and simple)


Now once you become a pro, you can alter this list greatly but until then use it as your guide for style, while on the go!


Remember I'm a pro so I altered  the concept a little, to  ensure I could showcase my personal style.


Day 1 


Night out formal 

Night out casual 

Work Flow 
Shrimp n Grits #nomnomnom

Clearly I played A lot <3




Mothers Restaurant 
Pool time 


You get the idea